Adult friend mobile
But even with one good friend under my belt, I still found it difficult to find new friends.I remember it hit me about three months in (you know, let the honeymoon phase fizzle) and thinking, wow, I went from always having plans and friends to hang out with to literally sitting on my couch feeling weirdly lonely watching all my college friends who live in the same city go out and post on social media, and there I was so far away and feeling so out of my comfort zone.I know this isn’t the case for most people, but when you find a set of friends who truly get you and you trust with your deepest darkest secrets, you hold onto and cherish those relationships.
For example, in Los Angeles, the Hollywood Bowl hosts a set of free concerts in the summer (or at least they used to be free a couple years ago), which makes for an entertaining and unique night with your new friend(s).
This makes it so you don’t have to think twice and takes the mindless stress out of planning a friend date. One of my good friends taught me to always have five questions or topics ready to talk about or funny stories to share on a first date so conversation doesn’t get stale. You may go on a handful of first-date friend setups, but the good news is that as you get older and hit a level of maturity, you realize that if a friendship isn’t working out, there’s no need to force it and you shouldn’t feel guilty about that. Don’t feel weird about reaching out to a coworker or someone who went to your college who you weren’t friends with but now live in the same city.