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Another guy made sure even his social media presence wasn’t linked to mine.
He lied about not having an Instagram account, then when I “came across it” and liked one of his pictures in spite, he blocked me.
Despite the fact that we were on our third date, he didn’t even acknowledge my existence as I stood there a couple feet from him while he talked to his friend.
His silence told me exactly how much I meant to him.
These are men who find me attractive, but are initially hesitant because of my trans-ness.
With these men, I went on dates in public at the movies, or a chill restaurant, and I was viewed as more than a new sexual experience—but I don’t think I was seen as potential relationship material either. We vibed well and there was sexual tension building during our dates. After a month, he reached out to me saying he couldn’t be with me because I am transgender.
After realizing that I deserved so much better and was wasting my time with these guys, I stopped giving them attention.
After one too many encounters with men who were fetishizing me, I started to spend time on guys who actually wanted to get to know me.
Thanks to Tinder, profile pictures say more than a thousand words—and actual words seem to be irrelevant on our profiles.
I stayed in my back seat for probably five minutes to make sure he was gone.
When I got back into the front seat to drive home, I still felt uneasy.
With these kind of guys, I’ve felt like I was their dirty little secret, and at first, I thought this type of interaction was the closest thing to a relationship I was going to have as a trans woman.
But I finally reached my limit when one of my dates bumped into someone he knew when we were together.
Washboard-Abs-No-Face and unsolicited dick pics that most women, unfortunately, receive. Right as a transgender woman (I was born male, but identify and present as female) adds a whole new dimension to digital dating.