Sex dating rules
Women just need to be upfront, what men hate more than anything is to be deceived.#2 Playing Hard to get --- I don't have time for that, besides its just a deceptive as the #1 good-girl act.Rob and I will go out on our 4th date tonight :) Peace y'all, Denise What a lovely story, Denise! Congrats on reaching your true self and braving the dating world with comfortable success.I can totally relate to how you used to approach dating, feeling like you only have your appearance to offer. Your comment has really made me think about my self-worth and how I interact with men... The reality is, both genders are addicted to scripts that were forged from early life history experiences.But because playing a game necessarily translates into masking your authentic self, these rules cannot deliver the kind of genuine partnership on which true love is built.Instead, following bogus rules when it comes to dating invariably leads to one of two ill-fated consequences: Playing the game culminates in a kind of bait-and-switch in which one member of the new couple tends to feel duped; or one person continues to operate behind a façade so that he or she never becomes fully known by a partner and ends up locked in a one-sided relationship. It is important to have boundaries and to not reveal more or do more than you are completely comfortable with.Keep writing and get this stuff in the main stream where people can learn to stop shooting their selves in the foot.
When looking for a mate, being one's self is not going to guarantee landing "the prize", but if you feel good about yourself, the odds of attracting a suitable partner get much better.If the scripts are good, fine; if the scripts are bad or incompatible, not so good. I really hate those silly daytime talk shows and magazines that try to impose certain rules when it comes to relationships (as well as gender roles/stereotypes.) You should just be yourself - be free to ask someone out no matter what your gender.For one thing, I think it's really silly that men are expected to be the ones to pursue a woman and be the one to ask if she wants to marry him.If you are not promiscuous or such lifestyles don’t align with your values, that is fine, but please don’t judge.
Respectfully acknowledge your different values so you can part ways and each find someone more in line with your values I share this here with the hope that it may help folks find comfort when dating and entering into a new relationship...
Scripts are a key component of the branch of social psychology known as transactional analysis (TA), which no one talks about anymore.